Helping Men feel authentic and make meaningful change
Much of my private practice is devoted to helping men who are struggling with anxiety, depression, unresolved trauma, personal or professional crisis and relationship difficulties. Men enter therapy with a range of concerns, including anxiety, depression, substance abuse, addictions, stress, loneliness and relationship dissatisfaction. This practice provides a range of psychological & wellness services for men residing in NYC or NY state. Sessions are now conducted virtually.
Men frequently feel shame when they need help or support from others. They have been conditioned to view asking for help as a sign of weakness. For many men, society, culture, religion and certain types of upbringing have contributed to an inability to access their emotional lives. This means parts of the self remain hidden and unexpressed. Historically, men have not been encouraged, or permitted to be vulnerable or reveal their internal experiences. This leads to the development of the “false” self, the part they show the world. Effective therapy can help men find their “true” and authentic selves so they can thrive.
Men also tend to deny their emotions, as such, they experience high levels of isolation, loneliness, and disconnect from others. Men typically externalize or act out more than women, and are more likely to have health problems related to repressed rage, poor coping, and engage in acts of aggression, substance abuse, and suicide.
Does Self-sabotage interfere with having the life you desire?
There is this “part” of you that seems to interfere with your ability to have the life that you desire. You are not alone. We all have an inner “saboteur” that causes setbacks, and even self-destruction. Because this part is unconscious, the saboteur within you frequently runs the show. In an effort to protect you from shame, disappointment and other things, it actually triggers failure before success has a chance. Therapy can help you get to know this part of you, and give it a name. Psychotherapy with integrated IFS parts work and EMDR can help you have a better relationship with your inner saboteur, and this process can be transformative for you.
Whatever you want to call your inner saboteur, we are talking about a system of coping and adaptation. Therapists who regularly use the IFS model work with these “parts” within each person’s behavioral system, as the parts actively interfere with or sabotage the achievement of a more successful and meaningful life. To experience success in therapy, our parts need to be effectively identified and managed with curiosity, compassion, and care. These parts, the ones that hold experiences like images, thoughts, feelings, fear, and the other parts that were once protective, are now no longer needed to keep you safe.
How do we work with self-sabotage in therapy sessions?
Integrating IFS into therapy sessions can help you work directly with the hidden agenda of the parts, moving you swiftly through the conflict, stuck-ness, and gridlock. IFS can also elegantly and seamlessly be integrated with EMDR for super-charged coaching to help “stuck” clients become less frozen in their past. My training in Internal Family Systems or IFS, along with my long history of successfully using EMDR with therapy and coaching, allows me to help you move through these stuck areas, that may have something to do with your past—but we don’t have to linger there for long.
What follows are some examples of concerns that prompt men to reach out for help:
Economic and financial pressures to maintain a certain quality of life leads to stress, anxiety, and depression
Pressures related to maintaining status or societal roles, especially in status-driven cities like Manhattan
Hopelessness, shame, and inadequacy about not fulfilling stereotypical, masculine gender roles and feeling “not enough”
Career concerns or lack of fulfillment related to work and professional endeavors
Feeling trapped or “stuck” in a career, relationship or other aspects of life can lead to anxiety and depression
Sexual repression, inability to perform, sexual shame, sexual acting out, eating disorders, body image issues
Feeling disconnected from spouse, children, family, and friends leads to isolation and loneliness
Lack of purpose and/or disillusionment with life and purpose
Shame and guilt that may be rooted in childhood experiences
Addictive behaviors and cravings that are impacting work, leisure, or family experiences
Anxiety and poor stress management skills lead to maladaptive coping mechanisms
Chronic sadness and depression that may be rooted in current life circumstances or early childhood experiences
Unfulfilling friendships and romantic relationships
Inability to find a partner or problems dating
Pressures related to work and life balance or ADHD that impact concentration or completion of tasks
Difficulties related to parenting, shared parenting, blended family, separation, divorce
Chaotic life as a result of personality disorder, gambling addiction, sexual addiction, or other behaviors that have led to negative consequences
Overcoming unresolved grief or loss
Difficulty related to aging and challenging transitions
Romance, Dating & Relationships
Blocks to intimacy and trust
Healing from break-ups or divorce
Recovering from infidelity and betrayal
Feeling “not enough” or “unworthy of love”
Repeating patterns such as finding “unavailable” partners
Co-dependency
Fear of abandonment in relationships
Relationship dissatisfaction, married and unfulfilled
Difficulties communicating needs and desires
Dating again
Divorce transition
Emotional Concerns
Generalized anxiety disorder (GAD), panic disorder, social anxiety
Major depression, bipolar, seasonal affective disorder (SAD)
Dissociation and numbness
Anger and rage
ADHD and low motivation
Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) formerly known as Aspergers
Health Concerns
Deleterious stress
High Blood Pressure
Diabetes and metabolic concerns
Chronic Fatigue
Autoimmune Disorders
Cancer
Nutrition
Male hormonal concerns such as low T (testosterone)
Neurotransmitter dysfunction
Sexual Dysfunction
Sexual problems, performance issues
Inability to orgasm
Sex drive concerns
Sexual compulsivity
Sexual fear and aversion
Shame related to sexuality
Recovering from negative experiences
Reclaiming sexuality after abuse
Recovering from childhood sexual abuse, assault, violence, harassment
Sexuality, Lifestyle & Identity
Religious and cultural concerns
Gender non-conforming, queer, transgender, LGBTQ+
Kink, fetish, BDSM
Sexual orientation, bisexuality
Alternative lifestyle, polyamorous lifestyle, open relationships
About Men’s Therapy NYC
The goal is to individualize treatment to your unique physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs. I have experience working with a broad range of symptoms and approaches in psychotherapy, including but not limited to EMDR Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Holistic Mind-Body Medicine. Therapy begins with a therapeutic consultation, where you will gain a wealth of information about your difficulties. Many people feel better after the first session. The initial consultation also lays the groundwork for future treatment as we determine the best modalities to help you heal. Concierge therapy is available for men in personal or professional crises.
Therapist to help with men’s issues With Nearly 20 Years Of Experience
This practice offers supportive, compassionate, and comprehensive care and also stays current on research related to mental health. My goal for you is to use my expertise and extensive training to get you back to living your life as quickly as possible.
Book An Appointment For Men’s therapy & counseling Today
To get started, book an appointment or text at 212-529-8292. Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan can help you in your healing journey toward optimal mental health.