Shame Resilience Therapy NYC, NY

you may not realize that Shame avoidance is keeping you from having a pleasurable and satisfying life. holistic Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan offers highly-effective Psychotherapy for the experience of Shame and shame defenses using EMDR Therapy, Relational Psychotherapy, Somatic Experiencing, IFS, and CBT Techniques In New York City and Online via Teletherapy.

Shame is a complex, emotional response that usually forms during early childhood development. It shows up differently for people, but typically, people describe feeling “bad” or “unworthy.” Shame makes it difficult to appropriately filter negative, potentially harmful experiences as well as respond to positive experiences in a healthy ways. Unresolved shame can be pervasive and even cause people to shut down globally, severely impacting the quality of one’s life, relationships, friendships, intimacy, productivity, and professional endeavors. Shame can play a role in low self-esteem, anxiety, social anxiety and phobia, depression, substance abuse, anger and rage, acting out, sexual problems, aggression, fighting behavior, defensive behaviors, body dysmorphia, eating disorders, and other mental health challenges.

Many who enter therapy are unaware that the source of their longstanding suffering is shame. Traumatic experiences such as childhood abuse, childhood neglect, relational trauma, verbal abuse, narcissistic abuse, and bullying are a few examples of situations that can lead someone to develop shame responses.

What is it like to experience feelings of shame?

• Lack of agency in one’s life, feeling out of control, feeling as if you don’t matter

• Unable to access and express true self, feeling like others won’t accept you, keeping feeling to yourself

• Hiding, isolating, feeling paralyzed and frozen, avoiding social experiences

• Perfectionistic tendencies, fear of failure

• Easily led or taken advantage of

• Feeling triggered and defensive

• Feeling under-appreciated, unvalued, unlovable, inadequate, rejected

• Poor eye contact, posture

At their core, individuals who experience shame may feel they are unworthy of love. Many who struggle with shame-related defenses will avoid connecting with others altogether out of fear that others will eventually conclude they are bad.

How does toxic shame interfere with your personal and professional relationships?

• Difficulties forming and sustaining close relationships

• Feeling unworthy of love

• Increased feelings of isolation and loneliness

• Struggle to feel open and honest with family, friends and colleagues

• Tendency to enter and stay in abusive relationships

• Frequently act abusively toward others

Individuals who experience shame will often attempt to manage their shame by engaging in harmful behaviors such as restrictive eating, binge eating, and even cutting and self-harm practices., restrictive eating, or binge-eating. According to research, toxic internalized shame is also linked to suicidal ideation.

Many people attempt to cope with unhealthy shame, or seek acceptance and validation through these harmful behaviors:

• Substance abuse

• Addictive behaviors

• Compulsive behaviors

• Perfectionism

• Self-sabotage

• Overworking themselves

• Difficulty setting protective boundaries

• Codependency

According to recent research, unhealthy shame is often linked to suicidal thoughts. Toxic shame can take a significant toll on your mental health, leading to low self-esteem, sadness, and other mental health concerns. Unfortunately, due to the social stigma surrounding mental illness, many people with internal shame fail to seek help.

About shame Therapy NYC

This practice provides a range of psychological & wellness services in NYC and throughout NY state. The goal is to individualize treatment to your unique physical, emotional, cognitive, and spiritual needs. I have experience working with a broad range of symptoms and approaches in psychotherapy, including but not limited to EMDR Therapy, Psychodynamic Psychotherapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Solution-Focused Therapy, Internal Family Systems, and Holistic Mind-Body Medicine. Therapy begins with a therapeutic consultation, where you will gain a wealth of information about your difficulties. Many people feel better after the first session. The initial consultation also lays the groundwork for future treatment as we determine the best modalities to help you heal.

Shame Reduction Therapist With Nearly 20 Years Of Experience

This practice offers supportive, compassionate and comprehensive care and also stays current on research related to mental health. My goal for you is to use my expertise and extensive training to get you back to living your life as quickly as possible.

Book An Appointment For Shame Therapy Today

To get started, book an appointment or text at 212-529-8292. Integrative Psychotherapy & Wellness Manhattan can help you in your healing journey toward optimal mental health. 

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